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Daily Tips for Helping Your Autistic Child

Avoid overwhelming situations

I am often asked, having two autistic sons, what advice I, as a mother, can give from my experience having raised my boys to adulthood. When they were young, these are some of the things I learned:

1. Make a daily schedule. Don’t just make a schedule–write it down, show it to your child and, if at all possible – stick to it. The thing that used to drive my boys into confusion and anger was, for example, if we planned to go to a movie at 2pm and then had to change it to 4pm. Sticking to a plan makes them feel safe. Variation causes intense agitation.

2. Avoid overwhelming situations.  For us, parties, large public gatherings, school plays, a loud movie theater – all had to be considered in advance and a retreat plan put into place in case one or both boys got overwhelmed. One thing I dreaded was taking the boys to Target. Even having repeated many times before we got there that we would not be buying any toys, my son, in particular, would wander to the toy department and come running up to me with a Lego set that cost at least $100 and demand that I buy it for him. When I explained again that it was too expensive and that we were not there to buy toys, he would hit me and throw himself down onto the floor and scream bloody murder.

I had to physically drag him out of the store with every mother watching me and shaking their heads. You could read their thoughts: What kind of mother can’t control her child? He’s obviously spoiled rotten. All she needs to do is discipline him. The looks that accompanied those stares, along with the manager asking us to leave, was a terrible experience. It wrung me out and took my son hours to calm down afterwards. Why did I put myself and my son into that situation? Because I couldn’t leave him at home (no one would babysit him!) and working mothers have to shop sometime for their clothes and just daily necessaries.

I will continue posting tips for moms, but I’m curious–what works well for you?

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  • Joan

    I cannot imagine how you managed with two autistic children! I would love to win a copy of this book to see how you coped. God bless you and stay safe on those 17 hand horses!

  • http://n/a Susan

    Hi,

    I hope I win as I want to read your book that I read about on authorbuzz contest.!

    My mailing address is:
    Susan Mahaffey
    9105 San Gregorio Rd.
    Atascadero, CA 93422

    Thanks!
    Susan :)

  • admin

    I don’t know how any of us mothers handle what we have on our plates! I am giving away three signed copies of SAVING MAX to people who share a story in the comments section about a time they were challenged as a mother. I know we all have so many of these stories and I’d love to read yours!

  • admin

    Hi Susan! I’m giving away three signed copies of the novel for mothers who share their stories about when they have felt most challenged in the comments section. Glad I have your address and can’t wait to hear your story!
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